Teasing is a tool to break through a woman’s shield or defense mechanisms. Here's how to tease a woman the right way...
Teasing is a tool to break through a woman’s shield or defense mechanisms. If a woman is out and about at a social gathering surrounded by her friends, she’s probably been offered free drinks eight or nine times that night by guys who are hitting on her. She can’t sleep with every guy who approaches her, so she has to have a way to filter weak guys out.
What she does is puts a “shield” up to meet her level of standards. If you find a way to surpass her shield then you are in, otherwise if you are like 80% of the guys that approached her seeking trying to impress her that night, then you will be dismissed.
A tease is a way of communicating that you are not impressed by her looks and status. You are treating her like a normal human being and if you find something of substance then you will reward her for that by showing your interest. It’s NOT an insult; it’s a way of finding out if she’s cool and fun. The more attractive she is, the more it tends to work.
Women assume that every guy approaching them is hitting on them, and in reality the majority are. The problem is not these guys are approaching them since you are expected as a man to go after what you want. However, most these guys show their interest right off the bat before finding more about her if she the kind of woman they want to be with.That telegraphs that the guy has no standards and that he is after one thing which is sex.
So attractive women conditioned themselves to become standoffish until a man like you who gets it and is able to bust that barrier. Teasing is ONE OF the ways (but not the only way) to bust that barrier.
When you tease her with something like “I see you are a bit quite, do you go out often?” then move on and talk about something else, her reality will be shaken. You aren’t like all the other guys who hit on her telling her how beautiful she is or asking her if she has a boyfriend, or just hammering her with a series of boring interview questionnaire. You are not supplicating, seeking her approval, or offering drinks.
An attractive woman understands the power she has over the majority of men. She is craving for a man who does not fall in that category of being weak. Once you demonstrate you are confident then she will keep testing you to see if you will fall back in that weak category of men. If you snooze you loose. She wants to find a higher status man she can respect and submit to.
Best way to demonstrate that you are that man is first through your non-verbal communication. Your body language and your vocal tonality accounts for 93% of communication. It is not what you say is how you say it. However this article is about teasing through words, if you want to learn the skills for proper non verbal communication then get the book that reveals it all http://www.socialseduction.com/the-man-code-ebook/.
You can talk about topics of mutual interest that appear to be boring in the beginning but later you can find something you can tease her about only if you are not aligned with. Remember, teasing is for breaking the barrier between you and her. If she is opening to the conversation and investing in you, then teasing could cause more harm if it is not stated in the proper context. If she is not investing much in the interaction or she is being standoffish then something like “Nice shoes, my little sister would love those,” smile and show you are joking.
An attractive woman who understands her power will try to get you to do things for her. A classic example is asking you to buy her a drink. In which you will respond “No, I don’t buy drinks to people I don’t know but if you buy me a drink I’ll get you the next round.” If she doesn’t agree, you can turn your back on her or do something playful.
Tease about anything she has control over in the short-term, so nothing about weight, age, skin, body, etc. Usually by nature most guys automatically are perceived in her mind as hitting on her when they approach her. When you tease her, you are flipping this mechanism around, showing that you might not be interested in her, which makes her want to work to know you.
Never insult, keep it fun and light. The point is to get her laughing and to challenge her by demonstrating self-confidence. Teasing that worked on the playground in elementary school works well as an adult.
Teasing starts when boys and girls tease each other as kids. Some little girls stood up for themselves and teased the boys back, and some of these boys carry that wound with them for the rest of their life.
Women become attracted when they stand up for themselves and emotionally invest in the interaction.
They see you as a challenge. Any time they emotionally invest that builds attraction.
This goes back to the school of thought that society puts women up on a pedestal, and men treat women as goddesses with higher value than them. Attractive women don’t pay cover charge, get free drinks at clubs, have guys who will take them to dinner, help them move, pay their bills, etc. so they are used to men supplicating to them.
Teasing is a sort of a light punishment to a woman who is acting bratty or not investing in the interaction. Avoid teasing if she is into you and investing in the conversation.
Many women think just because they have the looks, gives them a sense of entitlement over men. By teasing, you are dropping her down a notch from that pedestal. As a result usually she will start working to get back to that status by trying to seek your approval in which you will reward her with positive compliment or a side hug.
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