Qualifying a woman is an important step in attracting her. She wants to know that you have high standards, and that you won't just accept any old girl that lands in your arms. Here's how to show her you have high standards...
Qualifying a woman is an important step in attracting her. She wants to know that you have high standards, and that you won’t just accept any old girl that lands in your arms. She wants to live UP to your standards, not down.
Getting good at qualifying women begins with developing high standards both for yourself and the woman you’re interested in. Being specific on what you want in a woman and not willing to settle for anything less subcommunicates higher value, which generates attraction.
For example, if you like athletic women, you might ask her what kind of sports she’s into. If you like spiritual women, you might ask her what books she’s read recently, etc.
Most men qualify themselves instead of qualifying women. They talk about their job, the money they’re making, the car they’re driving, and the house they’re living in, hoping the woman will be impressed and reward them with affection and sex.
“ Challenging her will cause tension. It’s a good tension that you want. In order to release that tension, she feels she needs to qualify or explain herself to you, which works to your advantage. You can put her in whatever frame you want.
On the other hand, if you qualify her she will think on a subconscious level that you are successful and good in whatever you’re qualifying her about.
Challenging her will cause tension. It’s a good tension that you want. In order to release that tension, she feels she needs to qualify or explain herself to you, which works to your advantage. You can put her in whatever frame you want.
For example, if you want her to be adventurous, you can tell her, “You seem a bit shy, but I can tell you can be very adventurous once you feel trust and open up.”
That will put her in an adventurous mode and she will agree with you.
Another example could be “can you cook?” if she says yes, then you can say “great, now we can be friends” and if she said no then you can say “yeah, I don’t know if our relationship is going to work out anymore, unless you are willing to learn or got something else that you are really good at?” then she could start telling how great masseuse she is or how well she is organized, ect…
So set your intentions of whatever you want her to be, then know on a deep level you can get her to fall for this frame. The idea behind a challenge is that we want what we can’t have.
The harder something is to get, the more we want it. That is the idea of a challenge. Be less available, naturally, not by sitting home and watching TV.
You can create a lifestyle of meeting a lot of women and having cool friends to hang out with. By being busy meeting other women, that will make you less available.
Don’t answer all her calls, don’t get back to her too quickly. That creates scarcity and a sense of unpredictability, where she doesn’t know what will happen next. That will let her ponder what will come out of your mouth next or what you will do next.
Being in the moment will help you be unpredictable. Not having an agenda and just enjoying the time you’re with her makes you unpredictable. If a woman gets used to your presence in her life, then you pull that away from her after a while, it will create a sense of missing you. She will become more attracted.
So what is the purpose of qualifying a woman? One of the main purposes is to subcommunicate to her that you like her based on her personality qualities rather than her looks.
“ Don’t answer all her calls, don’t get back to her too quickly. That creates scarcity and a sense of unpredictability, where she doesn’t know what will happen next. That will let her ponder what will come out of your mouth next or what you will do next.
That does not mean to interview her or put her on the spot; it is a way to demonstrate that you have standards that you will not compromise. Qualifying or screening a woman creates major attraction.
For example, after interacting with a woman for a while, you can ask her to tell you three interesting things about her that will entice you to get to know her better. If she puts energy in her answer, that tells you she is attracted, otherwise you have more work to do.
If she does qualify herself, it’s important to reward her by pointing out the qualities that you like about her, never looks, and if you want you can take it away afterwards by teasing her about something totally ridiculous, such as the color of her shoes, her watch, etc. that will be fine also. An example “Intelligence is a quality I appreciate in a woman. Too bad you wear red shoes.”
Hot women like to be noticed for their personality rather than her looks and take away the things that most men notice about her, so point out what’s important to her.
Most guys notice only her looks, so being different and pointing out her unique individuality as a person. She will view you as a guy that will take her seriously rather than the guy who only wants to get in her pants.
Example: “That’s awesome you like to help people. It’s a quality humanity needs more of.” Then a takeaway: “I totally like you, you are intelligent and independant, we should totally get married, that way you can pay my bills while I focus on my hobbies.” In this example you pointed out the quality you liked about her, then took it away by taking it away and mentioning her paying your bills.
Its fun, challenging, and tells a lot about you that you are not an average guy seeking her approval!
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